Sober living is not an easy thing to do. You want to go out, you want to be around your friends, and you want to have fun. Finding the balance between sober living and having a social life is difficult, but with a few tips you will feel perfectly comfortable going out and being social again.
1. Be honest with yourself
No one knows you better than you. If you feel like a certain place may be uncomfortable or difficult for you, then avoid it. If a certain spot triggers bed memories or will cue a misstep, then go somewhere else. Do no put your self in a situation that will make you uncomfortable. The whole point of going out is to have fun. You don’t want to be afraid and stressed out the entire time.
2. Be honest with others
Your friends are people you should trust. You should rely on them for support. They should not judge you. With that being said, be honest with your friends. If you’re making plans with them and they keep suggesting bars, speak up! Tell them you’re recovering and that going there would make you uncomfortable. Maybe for a while you will be the one deciding where to go. They should understand and support that.
3. Pick hang out spots wisely
Obviously as a recovering addict you do not want to go hang out in a place littered with your former addiction. Do your research before you go. There are obvious places you will want to avoid, like bars and clubs, but there may also be other places that could trigger a relapse. Know before you go!
4. Take up a hobby
Learning a new trait or taking up a hobby is a great way to meet new people. Find something that has also interested you and explore that. Always wanted to join a bowling league? Contact your local bowling alley.
5. Get outside
Fresh air can cure so many things. Go to a park or join a local sports team. Adult sports leagues are all the rage. Join your area kickball team and instantly make friends!